Sept. 14th, 2006
Teenagers..........
I have thought about teenagers since I had my first son, 16 years ago. Thought about what he would be like. Who his friends would be. Who his first girlfriend would be.... and IF I would like her. Over the years this is something I have worried about. Do all Mothers worry about such stuff???
Well, this summer it seemed my oldest found a first girlfriend. Or she had finally found him. Guess it started years ago... with the first week of 6th grade. The girls just started calling. Different ones every night. Several a night. I remembered some of the names.... but my wonderful son, just didn't like talking on the phone. He would be polite and say hello... maybe a sentence or two more... then gently set the phone down. Later I would walk by wondering why the phone wasn't on the hook and pick it up and some poor girl would just be talking.... not even knowing that he wasn't on the phone. Well the calls ended as soon as they started. Can you blame them?? I can't. I wouldn't call either. BUT one girl... called again. And again. About 3 times a year. I guess just enough to make him understand she was still interested.
I thought maybe "love" had bloomed this summer. She started calling. He started calling her. They would talk for hours on end. Sometimes long into the night. Guess her Mom was relaxed as we were about summer hours and lenght of calls. I had never seen him "talk" so much. To anyone. Excupt his Auntie Karla. The went to the movies. (I drove) And I told him- in my opinion, if he paid.... we (Dad & I) considered it a "date". Although he kept saying they were just friends. We said that was fine. I thought.... he has a girl friend and I LIKE HER!!! Everyone liked her. She had something in common with everyone. BUT she was so much like him. Liked the same music... sports... (and actually "knew" about sports and the people that played them)
He decided he didn't have time for a girlfriend and school. So she doesn't call anymore. I miss her calls. She talked to all of us. Even his younger siblings.... how to get over the depression of all of this??? I don't know. At least I have Jakoby to keep me busy. And my oldest has his school work to keep him busy.
:(
Wonder what else these teenage years will bring????
Teenagers..........
I have thought about teenagers since I had my first son, 16 years ago. Thought about what he would be like. Who his friends would be. Who his first girlfriend would be.... and IF I would like her. Over the years this is something I have worried about. Do all Mothers worry about such stuff???
Well, this summer it seemed my oldest found a first girlfriend. Or she had finally found him. Guess it started years ago... with the first week of 6th grade. The girls just started calling. Different ones every night. Several a night. I remembered some of the names.... but my wonderful son, just didn't like talking on the phone. He would be polite and say hello... maybe a sentence or two more... then gently set the phone down. Later I would walk by wondering why the phone wasn't on the hook and pick it up and some poor girl would just be talking.... not even knowing that he wasn't on the phone. Well the calls ended as soon as they started. Can you blame them?? I can't. I wouldn't call either. BUT one girl... called again. And again. About 3 times a year. I guess just enough to make him understand she was still interested.
I thought maybe "love" had bloomed this summer. She started calling. He started calling her. They would talk for hours on end. Sometimes long into the night. Guess her Mom was relaxed as we were about summer hours and lenght of calls. I had never seen him "talk" so much. To anyone. Excupt his Auntie Karla. The went to the movies. (I drove) And I told him- in my opinion, if he paid.... we (Dad & I) considered it a "date". Although he kept saying they were just friends. We said that was fine. I thought.... he has a girl friend and I LIKE HER!!! Everyone liked her. She had something in common with everyone. BUT she was so much like him. Liked the same music... sports... (and actually "knew" about sports and the people that played them)
He decided he didn't have time for a girlfriend and school. So she doesn't call anymore. I miss her calls. She talked to all of us. Even his younger siblings.... how to get over the depression of all of this??? I don't know. At least I have Jakoby to keep me busy. And my oldest has his school work to keep him busy.
:(
Wonder what else these teenage years will bring????
posted by kat's mosaic'd world at 6:13 AM
1 Comments:
Christian hasn't had a girlfriend, just lots of friends that are girls. We always tell people "that's his 'not-girlfriend'". I think once he falls it will be hard, but what do I know? So, I don't know how to get over missing the girlfriend. But I really missed Christian's group of friends (boys and girls alike) when we moved here, even though they were "his" friends. I cried at his farewell party. And I have a picture of them on my mirror. They will probably all move on, maybe stay in touch, but I will always be grateful that for four years he had such wonderful, goofy, fun, GOOD kids for friends and I am grateful that they liked my son and understood him so well!!
Miss you!
r
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